Comment by Front-Economics-5497 on 15/01/2025 at 16:21 UTC

Omg that's really upsetting I'm so sorry. It's 4:45am here in Melbourne and I've got my 5 week old boy sleeping on my chest to make sure his mama can get a good sleep in after he gave her a rough night of cluster feeding (but honestly I'm loving every second of the time with him and am hoping he sleeps for a few hours for my own sake just as much as for mama's).

I wake up excited every morning cause I remember my baby boy is here and I've got another day with him. I cant imagine what kind of person would even agree to become a parent if they didn't have any interest in their child at all, let alone in supporting the mother of their child.

It really does sound like you deserve so much better, at least from what's been shared.

Btw well done on showering daily 👏 my partner and I are pretty impressed with ourselves when we manage to get a shower in every second day since boof head was born 😂

Comment by ch-12 at 15/01/2025 at 17:34 UTC

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I think you need to bluntly ask him to step it up. It’s simply too much for one parent to take on solo.

Comment by pumpkin_queen34 at 15/01/2025 at 18:10 UTC

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Your husband sucks girl

Comment by Baaadbrad at 15/01/2025 at 18:01 UTC

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Can we do an AMA with this man. You’re a saint but tell him to step it up! I’m sorry but that’s not a dad, that’s a temporary babysitter.

Comment by indokiddo at 15/01/2025 at 17:00 UTC*

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That is WILD. That is a sign of neglect forsure. Obviously idk about your relationship, I’m sorry but i don’t think he cares about you nor the baby, as of now.

You’d be better off receiving child support and hiring a caretaker or housekeeper than to have a deadbeat zombie walking around not taking care of the house and the baby.

Comment by RabidNerd at 15/01/2025 at 18:13 UTC

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WTF

I had never changed a diaper in my life until I had to do it blindfolded at the baby shower when they covered a doll in mustard and a good friend of mine had to walk me through it and actually did it really well. Once my kiddo was born I would change them all time

I work 6 days a week and late night shifts like 5pm to 12 or sometimes 1am. My wife breastfeeds and sometimes when the kiddo cries she has me change diaper at night. Usually around 8am or 9am when he has slept enough and won't again I take him with me either to go shopping or play in the living room so my partner can sleep til like 10-11 or so and right now when I have my paternity leave I'm with him the whole day so she can finish her thesis.

I bath him when she showers or when her back hurts and so on. Like doesn't matter if I'm working or not I try to be with my boy as much as possible since he is growing so so fast.

Tell your husband that he has to be able to do absolutely everything to look after your kid because what would he do if for some reason you aren't available.

With kids they are either hungry, tired, have a dirty nappy or need hugs/play/attention (like playing or singing or dancing) and that's kind of it when they get fussy. It isn't that complicated the majority of time just needs energy and the willingness to be there. I'm not saying it's easy or you don't get tired but anyone can do it unless they have some sort of disability

Comment by Big_Ambition_8723 at 15/01/2025 at 18:45 UTC

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Was he as lazy before the baby? He sounds like he sucks. Hope you can get him to step up or at least hire some help for you.

Comment by AtmosphereRelevant48 at 15/01/2025 at 18:31 UTC

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Wow, look at Father Of The Year

Comment by cogwizzle at 15/01/2025 at 20:40 UTC

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Yeah dog. This is definitely an issue. When you are off work as a Dad, you are full time parenting. I spend all of my time off work with my LO until bed. I do go to a gym and drop her off at their daycare, but other than that 100% engaged.

Comment by ImpossibleOffice4343 at 15/01/2025 at 20:46 UTC

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Yeh that's not a father that's a room mate, I'm willing to bet he spends alot of time gaming? He's a fucking man child that hasn't grown up and stepped up, I love gaming but since my girlfriend had our baby (1 year old) I've maybe played on my Xbox like 3 times because of how much attention is required from both of us and then the couple of hours of time we do get to ourselves in the evening we spend watching a show together otherwise we'd just never have time for each other

Comment by Current_Notice_3428 at 15/01/2025 at 22:31 UTC

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Yikes

Comment by Knightvision27 at 15/01/2025 at 22:38 UTC

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So you have two children then. That’s totally unacceptable and he needs to help out

Comment by TinyRick at 15/01/2025 at 23:21 UTC

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Send him a link to this post. He needs to sort himself out.

Comment by missbrittanylin at 16/01/2025 at 00:50 UTC

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WHAT!?!?!? Girlfriend this is insane, like actually crazy. That man is not acting like a parent. Hell he isn��t even acting like a man. Tell him to step it the eff up!

Comment by Mrs_N2020 at 16/01/2025 at 03:00 UTC

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I’m sorry, but you have a much bigger problem in your marriage than just the diaper thing. I hate how harsh that sounds, I have nothing but love and care for you, but there is no other way to say that. He holds his child once a day for 10-30 minutes? I fear you are not in an even partnership and he will continue to benefit from you while you get sucked dry and depleted over time.

Comment by InteractionOk69 at 16/01/2025 at 06:57 UTC

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Even if your husband is working full time and you’re not, this is bananas. Like tradwife republican level bananas…I mean if that’s what floats your boat, you do you, but this is medieval.

Comment by Stonefroglove at 16/01/2025 at 20:49 UTC

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He's doing absolutely nothing

Comment by BearsBeatsBattl at 19/01/2025 at 06:59 UTC

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What? Chores? The fuck are chores at 8 weeks after birth? My wife couldn’t even go downstairs easily for several weeks! Lord you are truly amazing and your partner is something else…