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View submission: Who does diapers?
I think those first few weeks I didn’t change any! He took care of it all. I know I didn’t change one in the hospital.
Comment by LoloScout_ at 15/01/2025 at 14:56 UTC
46 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Yup! Our baby was in the NICU for almost 3 weeks and I was recovering from a c section so I didn’t change any then. My husband wanted to feel like he had something he could do for the baby that wasn’t my sole responsibility by default since I chose to breastfeed.
I feel for OP, I’ve seen a few posts similar to this and I wanna just tell them to hand the baby over and tell them “this one’s on you!” But maybe their partner wouldn’t be reliable or safe?
Comment by cori_irl at 15/01/2025 at 15:10 UTC
16 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Same, I don’t think I changed a diaper for the first couple weeks. At one point I had to insist because I was nervous I wouldn’t know how lol
Comment by crzygoalkeeper92 at 15/01/2025 at 16:30 UTC
12 upvotes, 3 direct replies
I'm trying to imagine OP's partner sitting there in the hospital room while she gets up to change the diaper right after giving birth. Wild
Comment by Gophurkey at 15/01/2025 at 16:40 UTC
3 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I was about to say this actually tracks for me, but the 'expected' gender roles were reversed. I, the father, changed effectively 100% of diapers for the first 8 weeks or so. My wife was busy with recovering from birth, feeding, pumping, etc.
Comment by cli_jockey at 15/01/2025 at 18:12 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
It's the bare minimum us husbands can do IMO. My wife had a rough pregnancy and unexpected C-section. My wife only changed one diaper in the hospital and that's because she asked to and probably not again for another 3 weeks as I wanted to make sure she could heal properly.
Comment by PsychologicalWill88 at 15/01/2025 at 17:32 UTC
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Same I didn’t change any in the hospital, I had a c section so he changed 100% of them for the first 2 weeks .. and does 50-70% since then
Comment by NetAncient8677 at 16/01/2025 at 00:01 UTC
2 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I changed my daughter’s diaper once when we were in the hospital and I managed to put it on backwards 😂 Otherwise my husband was the one changing them unless the nurses changed her diaper while checking her vitals.
Comment by la_bibliothecaire at 16/01/2025 at 00:54 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Same for us. I didn't change a diaper until we were home from the hospital, and even then he did most of them for the first few weeks. His logic was that since I was breastfeeding, which he couldn't do, he should be fully in charge of dispers
Comment by Efficient_Shine4585 at 16/01/2025 at 17:50 UTC
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My partner made a point of changing our daughter’s first diaper