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The safety nets one is big, I think.
I know more women who were able to pursue a dream because of an SO paying the bills. Including ones who suddenly had reasons to break up when things took off for them. Do I think all of them did it consciously or cynically? No. Do I think some of these breakups were totally reasonable and the ti.ing was coincidence? Of course.
But these can't *all* be cases of "actually he was horrible the entire time and she had no choice." Some of it was just plain old "he was convenient, and when she didn't need him anymore, she upgraded." But that's not how people of either sex frame shitty motivations to themselves or their friends. And I've noticed at least in progressive spaces, women are a lot more likely to automatically assume innocence of other women regardless of innocence, or just not care about the innocence of a given guy if that means modifying their opinion of another woman.
There's nothing here!