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View submission: Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?
Last night I had something of a meltdown to myself. I know this has been talked to death about in this sub but I’m so ashamed of how I hurt people with my privilege, and how women were likely hurt during my state of ignorance before I knew about this. I almost felt as if I took myself out, there would be one less oppressor to bother people I guess. And I feel like I have OCD over this topic, when I was religious I used to obsess over if certain things were sins or not. Now im asking myself, does benefiting from patriarchy make me a bad person? Was I always a bad person? Am I even allowed to be happy?
Sorry this is sort of an incoherent rant, and I am where aware I’m a privileged little shit but I just don’t know where else to share.
Comment by Bluebellsnowylashes at 18/02/2025 at 21:12 UTC
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"Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it." - Maya Angelou
The fact you are reflecting on your actions and feel a sense of guilt/remorse/shame, whatever you want to call it, proves you aren't a bad person. You'd be hard-pressed to find a person who hasn't in some way benefitted to the detriment of someone else. All we can do is learn, apologise, and be and do better. Give yourself grace.