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FWIW, when you describe "okay" it sounds more like a no. If the will is not there I'm not sure that could ever be "Okay."
To wit, think about it as a continuum.
"NO!" - - - OKAY - - - "Hell Yeah!"
For me, "Okay" is the kind of sex you end up with when you're on month 24 of trying to conceive, and you suddenly realize it's time to "get to work."
And clearly, there's stuff between Okay and Hell Yeah!, e.g., You're back from two weeks of work travel. You're not in the mood, but choose to have sex to refresh intimacy with your partner.
Based on your comments, the way you describe "Okay" it sounds like it's somewhere between No and Okay, which I think of as the "not really consenting zone"
Comment by badass_panda at 17/02/2025 at 21:28 UTC
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Thanks, that clarification helps -- I agree completely. It's a continuum for sure.