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It makes you feel objectified, because it's clear that YOUR experience doesn't matter to the other person, only their pleasure and desire. Sex is always better when both people are invested in pleasing each other. It's like an enhanced version of listening to someone talk about themselves for an hour when they never ask how you're doing.
Comment by badass_panda at 17/02/2025 at 17:19 UTC
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Yeah, I think that's valid -- although the same is true of sleeping with someone who is just terribly selfish in bed, even if you are genuinely consenting to sleep with them. This feels a good deal worse, but I agree that it's sort of the same continuum.