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it’s always quite interesting how people criticize the “lift yourselves up by your bootstraps” mentality when it is deployed against other minority groups, and claim that insisting men are the fixers of everything is “toxic masculinity” - and then turn around and tell men to shut up and lift themselves up by their bootstraps. Not to mention that “men” are seen as a monolith and not deserving of the same nuanced intersectional analysis that women receive. E.g. disabled men, gay/bi/trans men, poor men, poc men, immigrant men, etc. exist. The majority of men are not wealthy, straight, powerful, and white.
It's not a bootstraps thing. Women literally can't fix this for you. Only men can fix this for other men. We're not demanding you individually fix yourselves. We're saying you need to try to fix each other.
Men need to learn how to emotionally connect with other men, and we can't teach you how to do it, because we're not men.
There's nothing here!