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If you separate loneliness into "feeling lonely due to lack of a romantic partner" and "other", I think you'll find this much more in common with men, than it is with women. For
On one hand I’m inclined to agree. On the other hand…and what? Dating is fundamentally a selfish endeavor. Let’s pretend that there’s zero victim-blaming and just world fallacious thinking in regards to single men for the sake of this discussion. It’s impossible to not cede all ground about the emotions on this topic to those who are angrier and more passionate on this topic and want to blame women.
So imo it’s not that I think you’re wrong, but it’s such a non-starter of a conversation unless you’re willing to acknowledge and admit that there is a preference for certain traditional norms. Which I am, but the route the tangential thinking goes towards doesn’t necessarily jive with some.
Comment by TangerineX at 14/02/2025 at 21:32 UTC
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On the other hand…and what?
The "and what?" is what intersectionality is all about: realizing the differences in experiences between different groups of people and tailoring solutions to the group, as opposed to applying a one-size fit all solution. The point is that men and women report loneliness at similar rates, but experience loneliness differently. Blaming someone isn't productive towards finding solutions that help particular populations, and in this case, men.
unless you’re willing to acknowledge and admit that there is a preference for certain traditional norms
I hate to say it but...we live in a society, and almost all of the social phenomena that exist currently has to do with traditional norms. It's sort of pointless to end the conversations at "well if you just stopped thinking this way everything would be fixed", because the majority of people are not going to change the way their brains are wired overnight.