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I've utterly lost it. I shouldn't let myself on gender subs anymore, I absolutely cannot believe what people are claiming to be universal male experience and the fact that my life will be measured against it by a lot of people makes me want to scream. I'm done trying to take it seriously and pretend like my life experience is in any way consistent with it. It gets to the point that whenever someone refers to my friends as "your mates", I internally recoil at what kind of shit they're subtly trying to push on me. I know no-one who designates their friends as "the boys". No-one. Why is that experience wrong and why do I just have to accept people thinking that it isn't true? I don't believe it's feminine to express emotions, was never taught it's gay to do xyz. I was a right libertarian watching S*gn of Ak*d until a few years ago and was surrounded by homophobes and racists for years, why do I not believe these things? What went wrong? The only adequate explanation is that life experience is defined on such a microscopic scale, these things sometimes just happen, but people's framework for understanding life doesn't allow that. Men x, women y, and that's it. Completely irreconcilable of course, pretty much a different species men and women are.
Why is it the only gender places I find relatable are MRA subs (not ideology, their stated life experience) and here, what's so different about the people here?? Why does Person A with life experience that contradicts that of Person B want to stamp on Person B to claim that their life experience was wrong or claim it is that of the minority <-> wrong? What do they gain?
Comment by chemguy216 at 21/01/2025 at 17:48 UTC
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At least in this sub, our userbase is more likely to know and acknowledge that we don’t have universal experiences, even when we have overlapping identities.
There are moments when I feel we somewhat lose that understanding, particularly when we discuss how to come together, but even then, our discussions that reach that point typically end up expanding to different men’s experiences.
In many ways, some of the frequent tensions we have in this sub arise because we’re trying, at our core, to think about how best to incorporate all sorts of men.
Comment by Oregon_Jones111 at 21/01/2025 at 01:31 UTC
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I was a right libertarian watching S*gn of Ak*d until a few years ago
As kinda embarrassing as it is to admit, it was the reaction to The Last Jedi that made me realize that him and his associates were as bad as if not worse than the “SJWs” they were railing against.