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I'm frustrated that many of my closest friends aren't willing to put in effort to visit friends or maintain an active friendship anymore as we start turning 40 this year.
Ugh, I'm having issues with this now, and I'm 28. I truly don't get it.
Have you tried scheduling things in advance, like a month or even two months ahead?
Comment by BurgerBandit32 at 17/01/2025 at 22:05 UTC
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Yeah I've tried both. I actually prefer scheduling 1 week+ ahead but shorter timelines seemed to get more direct answers. Longer plans meant non-committed responses like "I'll have to see how work is" or "I'll have to check with my partner" that they never followed up on.
A close friend and I have birthdays a few days apart so we put together a big camping or cabin trip each year that the bigger group has been committed to each year - but I can tell this year likely won't happen and probably won't happen again for a long time.
I'm glad I've been lucky enough to maintain a couple other friend groups and am starting to make some friends among other parents so I'm still optimistic I'll have or find some friends willing to hang out! I just always dreamed that this close group I've known since middle school and high school would be there the whole time. I'm not completely ruling them out - we could pick it up again in a few years.