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I get so fucking sick of hearing this every time something has an affect on men.
Bones break in different ways, but they're all refered to as "fractures". Trauma from a car crash is different from trauma experienced by a soldier, but it's still PTSD. And PPD experienced by those who give birth and those who don't is different, *but it's still PPD*.
Nothing is ever "the same" for women. Men and women are different. But every. Fucking. Time. Someone brings up an issue that affects men, there's always someone derailing by talking about "how it affects women differently". And it gets echoed constantly by people trying to diminish the issues men face.
I have literally never once seen a thread talking about an issue that affects both men and women, that did not have at least one person trying to make this argument and *I am tired of it*.
If you want to talk about how PPD affects women and men differently, that's fine. But stop making it about how it's somehow hurting women or disrespectful to women for men to talk about a roughly similar issue affects them- all over semantics.
Comment by Jealous-Factor7345 at 10/01/2025 at 18:52 UTC
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I'm sorry, but you're just wrong about this. It's comparing apples and oranges, and no amount of being mad about it changes it. A fracture isn't the same as an infarction isn't the same as an aneurism.
Nothing is ever "the same" for women.
Lots of things are "the same". This just isn't one of them. PPD/PPA is a specific experience relating to what happens to women after giving birth. Men quite literally can't be post partum because they're not the ones who gave birth.
Talking about male PPD is like using the pronoun "we" when discussion pregnancy. Only one member of the couple is pregnant, and its not the man. That doesn't diminish the experience of being an expectant father, but it does differentiate it.
Some things just aren't symmetrical in life, and that's ok. You don't have to experience the same thing as someone else for it to be important.
But stop making it about how it's somehow hurting women or disrespectful to women for men to talk about a roughly similar issue affects them- all over semantics.
Either semantics matter or they don't. If they matter, then it matters how we refer to PPD. If it doesn't, why are you arguing with me.