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View submission: I have this exact conversation with myself everyday
Lol.... it definitely isn't because of your weight. I am a fat dude, and I dress like a middle schooler. I was casually dating before I entered into a long-term relationship, and I am certain that if it ended, I wouldn't have any trouble dating again and meeting tons of other incredible people. Dating apps ARE terrible for your self-esteem. They're are there for shallow people who need to periodically hook up with other shallow people to feel good about themselves. You can feel amazing and confident about being yourself without the companionship of anyone else. If you're isolating yourself, then you're killing yourself. Get involved in groups where there are people with similar interests. For me, it was community outreach meetings, going out to see live music, meeting large groups of old acquaintances for dinner parties, going to art exhibits, wine tastings, little art classes, events at hobbyshops. I even go to the movies by myself. It's basically anywhere I could think of to stand out in groups as a single guy who likes to strike up conversation, crack some jokes, have fun, and get to know other people. I still do all those things, but now, a lot of the time, it is with my girlfriend (we met at a New Year's Eve party and talked about our record collections). Is it expensive to be so active? Yes, but so isn't maintaining a healthy equitable relationship. If finances get in the way of you having good, clean fun, then you need to make an increased income a priority before seeking a new relationship of any kind. Figure out how to be happy and mentally healthy on your own, be engaging, talk to people you genuinely find intriguing, and the rest will fall into place.
It works best if you're comfortable financially, and don't tell anyone that you are single unless you're asked. Also, learn how to cook at least one banger meal for two.
You don't have much life to live. Go live it.
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