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if your preference is to only date cis people, it’s just that—a preference. being attracted to only women is a sexuality, being only attracted to cisgender women is a preference. for example, if i’m only attracted to men, i’m straight. but if i’m only attracted to men with dark hair, i’m straight with a preference. personally, i think a preference should be held between you and people you are trying to date, and i don’t think people need to state their preferences as if it makes them special. if we made a new sexuality every time someone said “i prefer people with blue eyes”, most people would agree that’s ridiculous.
you are correct about the issue with super straights, it is born from transphobia and is incendiary and unhelpful. there is nothing wrong with having a genital preference, the issue is making a *sexuality* on the basis of excluding trans people. being attracted to cisgender people is not a sexuality. a sexuality based on a preference isn’t something we should be comfortable with.
the majority of LGBTQ people agree that genital preferences are fine. the minority of people who think not wanting to date a trans person with their original genitals is transphobic do not represent the majority sentiment. a moderate volume minority of teens on tumblr and twitter should not be considered the views of most people.
there’s also the issue that, as stated, this movement was started by a 4chan neo nazi to spread hate towards trans individuals. not only is the idea itself ridiculous, but it is also harmful ideology spreading to the masses.
Comment by redditatwork1986 at 12/03/2021 at 19:43 UTC
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Thanks for the comprehensive response. Its nobody's obligation to educate other people for free but I appreciate the conversation.
So the main problem seems to be two-fold: the entire movement stems from a place of hatred, and there seems to be an importance attached to the words preference and sexuality that I wasn't aware of.
Does that also mean its probably safe to say that in general, there's nothing inherently bigoted or transphobic about a preference if expressed respectfully? I.E gay men preferring gay men, cis women preferring cis men, or lesbian women who prefer lesbian women? Although with this preference you should probably do some introspection as to why you have that preference.
Comment by porn_on_the_4th_of_j at 13/03/2021 at 00:54 UTC
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Also it's not like there is tons of trans (or cis) people out there trying to sleep with these dorks.