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View submission: About loneliness and how our interactions are reducing day by day
I recently turned 40. I have to make a concerted effort to reach out and spend time with friends that I want to spend time with. It isn't as spontaneous as when you're in your 20s or 30s because of life.
Don't know about everyone else, but after we weren't in school together, it took effort to keep meeting my friends. Now it takes effort to meet my former colleagues who are friends. People get kids, and we have to schedule carefully.
Edit: And I distinctly remember how difficult it was for me as a shy, awkward kid to talk to new people. I don't believe it was ever all that easy to find friends. Kids just meet a shitload of new people/kids really fast, so they're bound to bond with some of them. My friends/yr count has risen steadily since my 20s.
Comment by huxtiblejones at 27/11/2024 at 04:27 UTC
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The reality is that most friendships in our lives are friendships of convenience - you hang out with people who are around you often. It takes a lot of work to meet up when the conditions are different.
Comment by mistertickertape at 26/11/2024 at 23:44 UTC
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That’s completely fair. I think it’s just life that gets in the way. I used to have this misconception that you collected friends as you got older and as I’ve gotten older I’ve only realized the only way that happens is if you put in the time and effort.