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I love this :) I recently got into a short debate with someone on Facebook (never a good idea) who claimed to be a pastor that told me he "would caution me from mixing up my will with God's will for me," that to want kids is godly and by not accepting that for myself I'm denying myself God's richest blessing and denying him His will in my life. That there are many examples of people who didn't want God's chosen path for them and yet had to do it anyway.
It's really gotten into my head even though I firmly believe chosing whether or not to have kids is part of the free will God gives us. And yet I've always been afraid I'm disobeying God by not doing it. Everything he said played into those fears. I'm curious what other people's thoughts are?
(For the record, I think it's silly to tell someone they are denying themselves something if it's something they truly don't want.)
Comment by HoneyGoldenChild at 30/01/2025 at 16:05 UTC
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Having kids is not mandatory though lol just because something is a blessing doesn’t mean everyone should/will get that blessing. He’s trying to tell you God’s will for you. How does he know that? Did God tell him you were supposed to have kids?? It seems like he is the one mixing up his personal biases with God’s will. Did God tell you that he plans to bless you with children? How can you reject something that hasn’t been offered to you?
Comment by probably_a_goomba at 02/02/2025 at 13:43 UTC
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Hi friend,
That makes me sad... That another person would publicly tell you what God's will is for you. He likely has his own conviction or hurt having to do with having kids. If he truly wanted to reach you, I think he would have privately messaged you but sounds like he was more concerned with showing off his "knowledge" and "dedication" to God... Kinda pharisaical if you ask me.
Having kids is such a delicate topic and personal choice (though our society defaults to it not being a choice at all). I often tell God that if He wants me to have kids then He'll have to make that happen because I am not for it. I trust that God knows my heart and if I did get pregnant (just like any part of God's will that I would not choose for myself but God wants), I would go forth knowing He has a purpose in that too.
I totally get into my head about it too sometimes. I feel like such an outlier and I wonder if it'll change as I reach ages of lower to no fertility.
In the meantime, I've got your back!