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View submission: Does anyone else struggle to trust anyone?
To be honest,
Yes, it is extremely difficult to trust people - cptsd is relationship trauma. In times when I doubt people, I tell myself it's not my responsibility to make sure they are being honest with me all the time, I CAN trust I'll know how to handle if they are being deceitful.
In regards to the relationship concerns, the brutal honest truth is that a lot of relationships outside of personal relationships are transactional, work for example. I have learned we don't bring our authentic selves to work, but rather a masked identity of who we want the world to see. We play the part for others so others can play a part for us.
With personal relationships, unfortunately neurotypical people require the song and dance of pleasantries that eventually lead to a deeper relationship. It's hard to get, because true emotional connections/vulnerability are SO incredible rare.
With all of that being said, it is not pointless. Social currency will pay off in the forms of needing references and other social needs. It might not seem to pay off right way but that is the definition of an investment. Especially if you find yourself in the rare hard spot, just remember to never withdraw more than you invest.
I hope I've helped with my opinion, it's not much but I feel like I can understand where you're coming from
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