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View submission: Does anyone else struggle to trust anyone?
I've definitely struggled with trusting other people and even myself at times.
I know what you mean about some people using others like props and accessories and then dropping them when they are done with them. I think it's easier for people like us to get into situations like that because we can struggle with setting healthy boundaries. The good news is that it's a skill we can learn. Once you are able to draw boundaries, it starts to filter the genuine people from the users.
I guess you could view all relationships as transactional, but you could also split it into the good and bad kind. All relationships are about give and take, but it doesn't have to be exploitative as long as there is mutual care and respect. Some relationships last a long time, and some are short-lived, but that doesn't make them meaningless.
I keep trying because authentic connections are worth it when you find one. They feel safe and warm, and you can be yourself. They don't come along very often for me, so I try to cherish them when they do.
I closed myself off for a long time due to my attachment wounds, but I'm realising that they can only be healed by safely connecting to others. I'm better at spotting unsafe people now, so I'm feeling able to start opening up again. We have to risk being vulnerable in order to experience the good stuff. I'm beginning to see that the key is in being able to choose the right people to let in.
There's nothing here!