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View submission: Does trauma healing lead to asexuality ?
I have definitely experienced periods of this. Instead of feeling sexy I just felt calm.
It wasn’t unpleasant, it just seemed like that energy had turned inwards and was being used for healing of self. The idea of stirring it up by intimate connection with others didn’t feel right.
Those periods have usually lasted 3-6mo.
It seems to be triggered by being sexy with people where I feel subtly anxious/scared even if I’m generally having fun, and it goes away again if I feel very safe/relaxed/peaceful with someone.
Comment by TheRazor_sEdge at 06/02/2025 at 17:07 UTC*
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Oh, I've just come into this space in the past couple of years. Like many of us, my sexuality didn't really come from a healthy place. If nothing else, I was confident I was attractive and men wanted to sleep with me. I put myself in some horrific situations.
Now that identity isn't important to me. I see my value as a smart, lovable person who doesn't need this kind of validation. I do feel sort of asexual as a result, but not for general lack of interest in sex. Like you said, I feel the energy turned inwards somehow.