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View submission: Does trauma healing lead to asexuality ?
Hard for me to personally tell. I've always been sex repulsed, but needing male validation (hello, trauma induced daddy issues) meant I forced trying for a really long time, because I couldn't see that what I wanted (a validating, safe, protective father figure) was different to wanting a boyfriend. So in that sense, healing some of that trauma - or at least, being cognisant of it, helped me to realise that I wanted a dad, and it's probably quite common to be repulsed by the idea of sleeping with your dad.
So, working on my trauma led to those understandings - that I wanted a dad not a boyfriend, and I was sex repulsed.
It has led to abstaining from sex and relationships as a result - but only because that was the natural place a healthy version of me would have got to anyway.
Comment by Asleep-Catdog at 06/02/2025 at 17:03 UTC
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How you healed from that trauma? I noticed thy my boyfriend just replaced my fater figure and actually thats weird
Comment by talks2cats at 06/02/2025 at 19:18 UTC
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This comment is enlightening and very relatable for myself. I find myself seeking male validation and end up staying in toxic relationships longer than I should. I’m also curious how you worked on your trauma?