Comment by Correct-Sprinkles-21 on 27/01/2025 at 04:35 UTC

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View submission: Ladies in perfectly healthy & overall happy relationships, do you ever get random moments when you’re like “maybe this isn’t my person?”

I had a very weird episode 1.5 years in where I had about a week of intense intrusive thoughts along the lines of "What if I am faking my own feelings and I'm actually lying to myself about the fact that I love him?" It wasn't questioning whether he was right for me. Just the anxious part of my brain being an asshole, as usual. I doubt and question myself about everything, so of course it happened around my relationship too.

Other than that, no. He's the one I want to grow old with.We are ridiculously compatible. We understand each other like no one else. We've developed a very deep friendship along with the romance. When I am in his presence I am happy and at peace.

There are times when I worry about how we will navigate certain issues. We're two different people so we have different ways of doing things and different perspectives. But it's never "Should I be with him?" in that situation. It's "How can we make this work?"

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Comment by OptmstcExstntlst at 27/01/2025 at 23:25 UTC

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I have this absurd fear that my husband thinks I'm lying about having a job. It's completely bizarre. I have to consciously remind myself, "we share a bank account and he sees your direct deposits going in." But, still, there is this REALLY WEIRD part of my brain that's always whispering, "but what if you were lying about having a job? What if you're really involved in an elaborate ruse where you made up character-coworkers, scenarios, etc.?? Then what?????"

What the fuck is wrong with human brains?