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no because I don't believe in that. frankly I think the idea of having a "person" is simplistic for mature adult relationships. people grow and change throughout their life, and so do their priorities and needs. I think it's OK to just have someone who is a good fit for you depending on where you're at in your individual journey of emotional/romantic/sexual/intellectual development. if that's the same person for 5 years or 50, that's also OK.
I've been with my partner for a long time and I do occasionally feel like there are ways I'd prefer him to be different. but in the end the comfort and love and support he gives me outweigh that.
Comment by Another_viewpoint at 27/01/2025 at 04:34 UTC
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So true. I’m not the person I was when I got married and neither is my husband. We’ve changed and evolved but our values remain the same and we love and respect each other. Even in our worst fights, that’s not what comes to my mind.
Comment by MemilyBemily5 at 27/01/2025 at 06:34 UTC
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all of this. plus, with 8 billion persons on this planet, if we all had 1, what are the actual odds we would find them lol