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View submission: People WITHOUT depression and anxiety, what is life like?
Why did you think she was shallow?
Comment by CetiCeltic at 28/08/2020 at 07:16 UTC
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Not OP, but usually depression gets you in really personal ways. It's's not just "I'm sad." It's "I'm worthless. I'm ugly. I'm not a good person." And in a grasp of desperation to not feel like an outcast and make it *worse* you tend to justify those thoughts (and simultaneously beat yourself up) with "well everyone feels this way so I should just shut up. It's not so bad."
And the "everyone feels like this" lie can cause contempt for people who are "normal" and have healthy, properly functioning brains. Their actions are seen as shallow and fake. You like how you look in that photo? You're lying to everyone. You put on makeup everyday? You're just vying for attention. When it's actually just people taking care of themselves and doing their normal shit. But because it's so difficult for you, it's perceived as extra effort and vain/shallow.
At least that's how it is/was for me.
Comment by daisymayusa at 28/08/2020 at 10:27 UTC
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She just didn't get bogged down in those deep existential thoughts, like, I am worthless so why do I exist and how can I justify my place on this earth? Never even considered that shit. Which was so fucking weird to me
Comment by MMBitey at 28/08/2020 at 13:06 UTC
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Not OP but I think I know what they are referring to. For me, while anxiety fucking sucks, it actually serves a huge purpose and can drive action and big changes if one is motivated enough and introspective. I believe I think more deeply and have grown and learned about myself and the human mind and developed a philosophy that likely wouldn't have occurred if I didn't have the internal conflicts I have. And I make friends with a lot of people who think similarly and connect on this deeper level. I actually have a harder time connecting deeply with those who have never experienced this struggle, and sometimes they do come across as perhaps more "simple" for lack of better terms– and I mean this endearingly and respectfully.