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View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?
Yeah… I suppose I don’t understand because women seem to be able to do these things that men deem completely impossible and absurd to expect. And, some men do too. It’s just that it’s much more common for women to do - and often to the point that it’s almost expected, because women do it so naturally that to some it’s jarring when they don’t.
Maybe it’s in-part that women are socialised to be caretakers and generally have a higher EQ. But it really doesn’t feel like it should be such an apparently huge ask for men to know the women they love well enough to be able to do some things for them without being prompted or needing a lot of guidance. Or to be able to remember that certain things hurt them and to make an effort to not do those things.
Often relationships with men that struggle with this sort of thing feels like you’re being treated as a generic ‘female’, or as if your partner doesn’t think about you unless prompted, which feels terrible.
Comment by Symonie at 09/03/2025 at 09:24 UTC
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I saw a post not long ago where a man was upset that his wife hadn’t done anything for his birthday, “she hadn’t even baked a cake”. Which made me think. For a woman it’s seen as the bare minimum to bake or get him a cake for his birthday, but I don’t know a single man in my life who has ever baked a cake, or even bought a cake, for his wife. The woman always gets it herself. And I live in a supposed progressive country (the Netherlands).