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View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?
The world is a cruel place for young women and girls. We’re taught at a young age that our worth is based on looks and it can take a long time to outgrow that mindset. My self esteem was way worse back in the day despite the fact that I wasn’t fat, I was lighter by like 50-60 lbs. I’m overweight now and even though I don’t like the way I look now, I’m way kinder to myself than I was back then.
Comment by whatsthisevenfor at 09/03/2025 at 02:27 UTC
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I'm glad you're being kinder to yourself <3 I see pictures of myself from 10 years ago and am flabbergasted that I thought I wasn't fit or attractive enough. I was so rude to my small yet perky boobs back then
Comment by MrsDoylesTeabags at 09/03/2025 at 09:34 UTC
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I’m 50, when I was in my teens Kylie Minogue and Kate Moss were the beauty standard. I had so many friends who developed serious eating disorders as a result. No we have Kardashian’s and insta models with their unrealistic looks and girls and women are going to even more extremes to fit in. I am mixed race, I’ve never felt pretty or feminine in my entire life. I went to my mums house a while back and she’d had a sort out and had a framed photo of me and my nan when I must have been about 14/ 15 and she would have been around 50. We both look so beautiful in that picture, I couldn’t get over it! None of us are immune and we never win. It breaks my heart, it really does.
Comment by _everynameistaken_ at 09/03/2025 at 06:46 UTC
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Society judges a womans worth based on her looks.
Society judges a mans worth based on what he can provide.
Capitalist society commodifies both sexes and it fucking sucks.
Comment by npmoro at 09/03/2025 at 02:36 UTC
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You know what's funny about this. I find that it is women/girls who judge and are mean about appearance. Guys can be mean too, but in my life experience the vast majority of people who say mean things about others appearances were women-typically about other women.
Comment by Immediate_East_5052 at 09/03/2025 at 11:45 UTC
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Yep. I had a baby a year and a half ago and my body has never been the same. I’m pretty tall and used to on the thinner side. I’m still thin but none of my old clothes fit and things just don’t look the same way on me. My stomach isn’t the same and my chest is bigger.
My husband thinks I’m even hotter now, but I just cannot see myself that way.