318 upvotes, 12 direct replies (showing 12)
View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?
Believe me there are a lot of women who think just like you. And they hear their whole lives "you'll change your mind", "you just need to find the right man", "you will regret your decision in the future", "every woman should be a mother" etc etc. I've never felt like it, I'm 30 and still nothing.
Comment by Pretty_Programmer_54 at 08/03/2025 at 22:25 UTC
58 upvotes, 2 direct replies
I was around 45 before people stopped saying that stuff to me. It's like they really can't comprehend that some women don't want children.
Comment by eekers28 at 08/03/2025 at 23:04 UTC
8 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Girl I’m 35 married and I do NOT want them what so ever
Comment by Strange-Bee5626 at 08/03/2025 at 22:31 UTC
8 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I'm 32 and feel the same way. I pretty much always have. I think kids are great, but I definitely don't want to be responsible for one full-time.
Comment by Living_Progress_1444 at 08/03/2025 at 23:52 UTC
7 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I HATE that people say that. I’m a mother and the fact that people try and convince women to have kids just grosses me out.
Comment by PARTINlCO at 08/03/2025 at 19:58 UTC
33 upvotes, 1 direct replies
ewww dude that’s so aggravating. It’s very “u sHouLd sMiLe mOrE” type shit that old men say to girls. I would be such a raging asshole if I were a woman and people tried to spout that shit to me.
Comment by TraderJoeslove31 at 09/03/2025 at 02:39 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I'm 46 and never felt it.
Comment by AskRecent6329 at 09/03/2025 at 02:47 UTC
4 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I've known I didn't want to be pregnant since I understood what pregnant meant. I finally convinced a doc to sterilize me in my early 30s. Best decision. I have kids, but they didn't come out of me.
Comment by crankyweasels at 09/03/2025 at 04:38 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
people are still telling me i'll change my mind, even though i'm 58 and no longer in possession of the necessary parts... like when exactly .. my next life?
Comment by g3etwqb-uh8yaw07k at 08/03/2025 at 23:45 UTC
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The thing is, people who regret not having children can safely change their mind up until their late 30s/early 40s before the exponential growth regarding birth defect risks sets in.
People who regret having children will either be good parents but get burnout, be bad parents, or put them in foster care which is probably about as bad as bad parents.
So, in the end, better to be a bit lste than too early, and if you're sure about it around 40yo, that's probably gonna stay that way.
Comment by atwa_au at 09/03/2025 at 22:07 UTC
1 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I’m 38. I will never want to do that.
Comment by murmeltearding at 09/03/2025 at 09:09 UTC
0 upvotes, 0 direct replies
yea, i (36f) got married recently and we don't want kids. furry kids apparently don't count.
but so many people ask me about kids when i tell them i got married!
never wanted kids, like from age 10 or so, i hated kids! lol but apparently, now that i'm married, that has to change?
nah! never! our kids have 4 beautiful, soft paws and annoying as they can be, they'll never be half as exhausting as a human kid!
Comment by aaronupright at 09/03/2025 at 00:41 UTC
-13 upvotes, 0 direct replies
My sister was like you at 30. At 35 she is the mother of a besutiful 1 year old boy. Who is her new Lord and Master. Her entire world.
Its there I assure you. Evolution is all in on ensuring we reproduce.