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View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?
I had an older coworker baffled when i said we both do all chores around the house like cooking, cleaning, laundry… she asked me to ‘show me your ways’ and i just thought, marry a real decent person who just… does it? We never even discussed it.
Comment by Glad-Fish5863 at 08/03/2025 at 19:30 UTC
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I’m sitting here watching my husband clean out our cupboards in the kitchen and he did the dishes this morning while I slept in. I did the bathroom cabinets and cleaned the bathroom today and together we are going to clean the closets out. Spring cleaning. We work together. lol. I can’t imagine marrying someone who thinks women and men have separate household responsibilities.
Comment by Emergency-Nebula5005 at 08/03/2025 at 21:41 UTC
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Tbf, our mum used to go office cleaning 3 or 4 nights a week. This was back in the late sixties/early seventies. Our dad would come home from work + cook for us 3 kids, organise us to wash up + tidy away, organise our wash downs + teeth brushing at the kitchen sink, then get out a board game that we'd all play. Us kids thought he was useless at the games as he always seemed to lose! Dad also got the grocery shopping + insisted on cooking Sunday roasts. He also made the best fry-ups + pancakes + seemed to enjoy ironing. Refused to hoover or work the washing machine unless an emergency.
Comment by Magic-Happens-Here at 09/03/2025 at 04:39 UTC
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Same! My MIL once went off on my husband because she was convinced he wasn't doing enough around the house (I was home with the baby - honestly can't remember now if it was the first or second kid) and I just remember her very indignantly demanding "Well, who scrubs the toilets?!?" - this after he'd spent almost an hour explaining to her that we had a very comfortable division of labor and we both felt good about what we each contribute to our household (which was and is 100% true!). I'll never forget the look on my husband's face when he deadpan replied to her "A lovely woman named Wendy" (who was the housekeeper he hired when I was put on bedrest during my first pregnancy and she stayed with us for years until we moved to a new state. We both still miss her). It completely took the wind out of MIL's sails and she just replied "oh" and then changed the subject. It's been years since then and she hasn't brought it up again.
Like, I get it, you had a sh*t marriage and ended up divorcing FIL because you hated being a housewife, but your son isn't his dad and I'm not you. We live VERY different lives!
Comment by Glorious-gnoo at 09/03/2025 at 06:05 UTC
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My dad expected my mom to do all the household chores on top of her full time job until his mom told him to step up. And you don't go against Nana.
Comment by Prior-Throat-8017 at 09/03/2025 at 13:15 UTC
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My neighbors had a screaming match yesterday because the dude wouldn’t pick up his shit and she was screaming at him “I’m your wife! Not your mom!” How does one end up marrying a dude who acts like a child. I don’t get it.
Comment by Artist850 at 09/03/2025 at 05:41 UTC
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Agreed and same. My hubby and I are partners. We help each other do basically everything. He married me for me, not for my cooking skills, housekeeping abilities, or plumbing. Same for me - there's more to a man than a wallet and a penis. He's my best friend.