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View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?
We grow up being told that's what women are supposed to do (and hell, a lot of politicians are saying it too). People always ask you if you have kids, and if not, why not. Nobody ever asks why we have children when we have them ! It's seen as the default. Breaking out of that norm takes a lot of self-reflection and being in an environment that allows for differing paths.
Also I don't think most people who have children see it primarily as "I'm tied down for at least 18 years", regardless of gender.
Comment by PuzzleheadedTea5355 at 09/03/2025 at 09:04 UTC
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Completely agree to the last paragraph as a guy(21M). Most people in my outer family circle have 2-3 kids, except my mother and grandmother. They always saw children as just “extra people to divide the inheritance”, so I’m a single child. I also have this view, and have talked with my other family members. They mostly see children as a means to an end thing, and then end up raising mentally ill, insecure children who probably weren’t planned one bit. And then they wonder why their children and outer family is poorer than us.
Some people are just wired to have children, I presume. Sorry for the tangent, but I’ve been called a monster and “inhumane” for having this pragmatist view.