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View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?
Because 99% of the time we are disqualified instantly just for our height or dick size.
Lying means you got your foot in the door. In person women are far less shallow than they are online or in their initial disqualification process.
That 99% quickly becomes a 50% or even better depending on how personable we are.
Dating for men is very much a numbers game. The norm is rejection. Anything we can do to just get a chance to get you to actually get to know us is worth it. If we still don't work out, then so be it, it wasn't meant to be. But getting that foot in the door is extremely difficult.
I'm saying this as a guy who has never had to lie about either. I'm over 6' and above average in the downstairs. I just get the mentality. Most women's initial filtering qualifiers are unreasonably high. It's basically the same as trying to apply for "entry level jobs" when they want minimum 10 years of experience.
Comment by BellaTheToady at 08/03/2025 at 19:10 UTC
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Wait that actually might make sense. I matched with a guy on a dating app years ago. All his photos were group photos where you couldn't really make out faces too well, for example really crowded, or very busy. I had no idea which he was but I didn't care because I couldn't believe my luck as he was very interested in me (at the time a solid 3) and he was so funny, kind, smart, passionate about his hobbies, earned a good amount, loved his mum, I was surprised he wasn't talking to anyone else.
Went to meet him in person and was only when I was walking up to the bar that I realised I didn't know which one from the photos he was so I was walking all around stressed looking for a guy sat by himself. He waved me down. He had the most and I mean the most slight facial "disfigurement" that he was super self conscious about. He told me that's why he used all the group photos to "get himself in the door"
We broke up because of cultural differences (his family disapproved of me, he stood up to them but it made his life so difficult) and distance. He's had surgery now and I'm happy for him because now he's with the 10 he deserves. But to me he was always handsome.
Comment by CatterMater at 08/03/2025 at 18:32 UTC
22 upvotes, 1 direct replies
You know women are *more* likely to reject a liar, right?
If he's lying about that, what else is he lying about?
Comment by ControlAvailable8319 at 08/03/2025 at 18:25 UTC
28 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Most women are even MORE likely to turn down a guy for lying
Comment by zthomasack at 08/03/2025 at 19:01 UTC
5 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Boo, just tell the truth, guys! -sincerely, a 5'11" guy who says that much on dating apps, and is worried people will think I'm lying because many other guys embellish
If the woman is openly shallow and requires a strict 6'0" height, that's probably not someone I want to spend time with anyway lol