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View submission: Do your boyfriends/husbands call themselves feminists?
It is interesting. I don't call myself a feminist because I am a man. And I don't call myself a feminist because my own problems as a man can't be solved by feminism because... Feminists literally say that our problems aren't their (and they are right).
I support feminists because it indirectly benefits me (body autonomy, more women in spaces with who I can share interest, having a better understanding of what's wrong with society in general, etc).
But let's be honest, men in those spaces will face scrutiny if they sneeze the wrong way or talk about their problems, you may already have a knee-jerk reaction just right now, and it's ok, why would you want to deal with that? Why would you want men hijacking your cause with their own problems? Or maybe they shouldn't talk about it (it doesn't make sense for you and for me).
Being an ally makes more sense to me than being a feminist and being frustrated.
I don't assume that we reached equality, quite the opposite and there's intersectionality on top of that (as a black man) and I don't want to get boss around by a bunch of white people (that's my own inner issue but it would be like a man telling you how to think, quite weird and unsettling?).
At the same time, I would find weird a woman who's not a feminist.
I'm not part of the LGBTQ community but I support them. It would be weird to label myself as part of the LGBTQ as a cis man.
All of this not to tell you that you're wrong but to give you another explanation as the "why" as I absolutely don't believe we achieve equality at all.
There's nothing here!