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View submission: I need some help with bed rotting.
what you’re describing sounds a lot like depression - that feeling of being trapped between knowing what you need to do and feeling completely unable to do it. That paralysis is real, and you’re not lazy or weak for experiencing it.
I really relate to that feeling of wanting a “paved road” and clarity before moving forward. But here’s something that helped me: progress isn’t linear. You don’t have to go from bed-rotting to fully functional overnight. In fact, trying to do that usually leads to burnout and feeling worse.
Instead, try this approach:
1. Start stupidly small. Like, “I’ll sit up in bed for 2 minutes” small. “I’ll brush just my front teeth” small. These aren’t your end goals - they’re just proving to your brain that movement is possible.
2. Acknowledge that everything will feel uncomfortable at first. That discomfort isn’t a sign you’re doing it wrong - it’s just what happens when we start moving again after being still for so long.
3. Drop the “used to be” comparison. You’re not trying to get back to some previous version of yourself. You’re building something new from where you are now.
The fact that you’re reaching out shows that part of you is ready for change. Listen to that part, even if it’s quiet. And remember - you don’t have to feel motivated or confident to take a tiny step forward. Sometimes we have to move first, and let the feelings catch up later.
Comment by WannabeNomiya at 06/02/2025 at 09:29 UTC
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Thanks, I’ll apply try to apply this into my life. Especially the first point. I have quite a bit of things I have to fix and it does feels like lot.