https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/1iiy4j6/i_need_some_help_with_bed_rotting/
created by WannabeNomiya on 06/02/2025 at 08:45 UTC
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I need help getting good at doing things in general again, I don’t want to do anything but distract myself with fleeting pleasure. I used to be a hard working person or atleast I thought so.
I don’t take care of myself, yet I do. I don’t acknowledge it enough and I have big problems in life, I’ve fixed a few but at this rate I might lose more.
I know the answer in my life (just doing it) yet I refuse to push forward. A part of me is ready to move on, but the other part wants to be comfortable or just ok. It’s like walking in fire.
If anyone has insight I’d appreciate it, feels like I’m looking for clarity and a paved road but that’s probably why I’m struggling. I expect it to be handed to me and reassurance, maybe I should just walk forward anyways even if I’m not sure.
Comment by kmaygar at 06/02/2025 at 08:56 UTC
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Bed rotting as in can’t get out of bed becuase of social media/ distractions? Or just life in general?
Comment by ashisht1122 at 06/02/2025 at 09:06 UTC
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what you’re describing sounds a lot like depression - that feeling of being trapped between knowing what you need to do and feeling completely unable to do it. That paralysis is real, and you’re not lazy or weak for experiencing it.
I really relate to that feeling of wanting a “paved road” and clarity before moving forward. But here’s something that helped me: progress isn’t linear. You don’t have to go from bed-rotting to fully functional overnight. In fact, trying to do that usually leads to burnout and feeling worse.
Instead, try this approach:
1. Start stupidly small. Like, “I’ll sit up in bed for 2 minutes” small. “I’ll brush just my front teeth” small. These aren’t your end goals - they’re just proving to your brain that movement is possible.
2. Acknowledge that everything will feel uncomfortable at first. That discomfort isn’t a sign you’re doing it wrong - it’s just what happens when we start moving again after being still for so long.
3. Drop the “used to be” comparison. You’re not trying to get back to some previous version of yourself. You’re building something new from where you are now.
The fact that you’re reaching out shows that part of you is ready for change. Listen to that part, even if it’s quiet. And remember - you don’t have to feel motivated or confident to take a tiny step forward. Sometimes we have to move first, and let the feelings catch up later.