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View submission: My boyfriend says I’m privileged
What a cloud of negativity, sounds like he’s just constantly raining on you for no reason other than that he’s jealous that you have family that’s still around. It’s terrible that he’s been abused but it’s not fair for him to take his frustrations out on you. Seems like immature behaviour for 46 ngl.
Comment by didthefabrictear at 06/02/2025 at 04:55 UTC
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Same as the ‘you’re almost 30’ thing.
At the core, it’s just plain old negging.
Picking at her, at her self esteem, oh you’re getting old, oh you’re so priv, oh you don’t know anything about the world little child – unlike me, big 46 year old with soooo much more life experience.
It’s condescending bullshit cause he's insecure and jealous and its designed to make you feel like shit. Expecting you to be with him anytime you’re not working, he does that to make your world small. Cut out the visits to family, the drinks with friends – make HIM the centre of everything.
He knows what he’s doing. They always do. This dude gives me baaaaaaad vibes through a screen.
Comment by Former_Reputation341 at 06/02/2025 at 05:21 UTC
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Thank you! Honestly this relationship has really made me overthink my whole identity. He’s not a bad guy but things like this I just start to feel worse and worse about myself. So you get the feeling that he’s jealous of my family being around still? Because that’s how I’ve been feeling but if I were to address it he wouldn’t express that he feels that way.
Comment by Left-Wear-9907 at 06/02/2025 at 09:24 UTC
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And if you have kids, understand that he will resent them too, for having a better life than he did. He will see them as spoiled and that'll make them feel guilty. Is that the father you want to give to your future children? it's just not gonna go well with this guy, trust me. He is supposed to elevate himself, not tear you down.
Comment by BellaTrix4Change at 06/02/2025 at 13:20 UTC
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Please break up with him.
Comment by VikingFuneral- at 06/02/2025 at 15:35 UTC
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I mean. He's right then.
OP is by definition privileged.
Whether you think he's jealous (Not the right word to use, by definition) is separated from the fact OP is privileged
"The finer things in life" is such a disgusting line.