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Relationship with Oneself

I know that others make sense of this idea more than I can, but at least for me, I've never much cared for the idea of "having a relationship with yourself". To me, it assumes that you can Other™ the self, which is…I mean, really, just a contradiction. The whole point of being yourself is to *be your own self*. You don't "relate" to your self, you are your self.

Rather than trying to make yourself out to be something other than what you are and only then relating with that (which is just dissociation), understand yourself better, be mindful of the conditions and conditioning around you, be more fully and livingly manifest as what you actually are. If you don't like what you see, then change it! But trying to Other it away as something else than what you already are and what you're already doing, and then trying to work from the outside in when you've already locked yourself away on the inside? It doesn't work that way.

On a similar note, despite how popular the idea is, especially in New Age-influenced contexts, I also don't much care for the idea of a "higher self". What such a concept often boils down to is just having an idealized notion of your own behavior and mindset that you could literally become right now, if only you just took your Actrite and tried. You're already divine, whether or not you feel like it; you already dwell within divinity, whether or not you're aware of it; you've already got a connection with divinity, whether or not you're listening to it. What more could a "higher self" give you or do for you? You already have all that, you already do all that! In the end, the question really is this: how do you elevate yourself to be what you expect such an external entity to be, and how do you not delay it any more than you already have?