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Congrats!

~bartender? Whatever fancies soon-to-be-Dad, its on me! I'll go for a hot chocolate with spices. No, its not only the weather, but some itch in my throat has developed lately ...

Dear ~orchard, I'm giving you 3 items of unwanted advice. But don't listen to me too closely, because I don't have children myself (for a number of interrelated reasons, none of them important here).

• Good enough! --- It is ok, if you are doing, what you can. Don't ruin yourself. That does not help anyone. My parents sure did, what they could, occasionally a little more. Only later I have come to understand what was involved.
• Don't forget your own relationship! --- My brother an his wife established the habit of having one evening per month off (no children for a few hours). That way the children learned early on to be at grannys or aunties place for a night, or to be content with a baby sitter (a young lady from the neighborhood). These evenings were crucial to keep their adult relationship alive.
• Having children young is good! --- My sister had her first baby with 23 iirc. And with 45 or so she told me: I'm sure glad I had my children early. I'm not 60 and my children have left home to pursue their own life. What a wonderful position to be in!

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