Create a Culture Where Difficult Conversations Aren t So Hard

2015-08-18 10:32:29

Jim Whitehurst

August 14, 2015

I worked as a consultant for many years before becoming the CEO of Red Hat. One

of the most surprising aspects of that work was that people would open up to

me, an outsider, about all the elephants in the room but they were too polite

or embarrassed to call out the obvious issues or blame their peers inside their

own organizations. My fellow consultants and I would sometimes joke that just

about every individual inside a company could immediately tell you what was

going wrong and what needed fixing. But whenever everybody convened for a

meeting to point out those very issues, you wouldn t hear a peep about anything

that could be perceived as negative. To our amazement, they were more open to

hearing feedback from us, the outsiders, than from their own colleagues.

Though this might be good for the consulting business, shouldn t companies be

having candid conversations since they almost always know the solution to

their problem on their own? Wouldn t the ability to share open and honest

feedback throughout the organization improve their chances of addressing their

issues, and more quickly?

These are the questions that keep me up at night as a CEO. Luckily, the

practices of open dialogue and providing constant feedback were already in

place and part of Red Hat s DNA when I joined the company. Because Red Hat

sprang from the world of open source software a community whose members pride

themselves on delivering open and honest feedback having candid, and what

others might call difficult, conversations is the norm. We debate, we argue,

and we complain. We let the sparks fly. The benefits of operating this way are

immense because we are able to tackle the elephant in the room head on, but

this kind of culture is hard to build and maintain, especially as companies

grow.

Fortunately, we ve learned a few tips from working in open source communities

about how to create and manage a vibrant feedback loop within our organization.

Once you establish the practice of sharing regular feedback across the company,

it begins to function like a flywheel. It s hard at first to get it moving. You

ll need to do some substantial pushing and monitoring to get the wheel

spinning. But before you know it, you ll find that the wheel begins to turn all

on its own using its own momentum.

We ve found that there are three key things you need to tackle to get your

feedback loop spinning; this is the foundational work that gets everyone

pushing in the same direction and that creates a safe environment where

everyone feels comfortable having difficult conversations. As a leader, you

must role model these behaviors, and encourage them at every level of your

organization:

Show appreciation. It surprises me that when people use the term feedback, it

often comes with a negative connotation. Why can t feedback also include

positive aspects as well? A great way to start a feedback loop, therefore, is

to actually begin by recognizing the good work someone has done. What we ve

learned is that one key to creating a self-sustaining feedback loop is that you

need to spend much more time recognizing and appreciating someone s efforts

than you do criticizing them. At Red Hat, I d wager the ratio is something like

9:1 (research typically suggests a 3:1 ratio of positive to negative). You re

far more likely to have someone from outside your department thank you or tell

you that you did a great job than anything else and they mean it. That s how

you can begin to establish trusting relationships that are strong enough to

withstand any constructive criticism that might come along.

Open up. We all have the tendency, when we think we re under attack, to circle

the wagons and protect our department and ourselves. You can literally read

someone s body language when this is happening they fold their arms, furrow

their brows and you can almost see the steam coming out of their ears. But if

you want to build a feedback loop in your business, you, especially as a

leader, need to lead by example and open yourself up to hear what people are

saying. If someone in another department is convinced you re not listening to

them, what makes you think they ll listen to anything you have to say to them?

Yes, opening yourself up makes you vulnerable. But that s also why we preach

the idea that you aren t your code, which is another way of saying that we

all need to be able to process constructive criticism without taking it

personally. If you can do that, you can create the kind of open and honest

culture that is capable of tackling the thorniest of issues together. And you

ll be amazed that when you do listen to someone s feedback, and take action on

it, you ll increase that person s engagement level in his or her work.

Be inclusive early and often. One of the interesting complexities inside most

organizations, especially larger ones, is that they establish departmental or

functional silos for reasons of efficiencies. And yet, they inadvertently

create mistrust and misinformation by doing so. It often results in an

us-versus-them type of situation that results in a departmental blame game.

That s why a big part of building an effective feedback loop is to get people

from all over the organization involved as soon as possible in your

decision-making, whether you work in finance, IT, or human resources and

often. It s far easier and effective to gather feedback from other departments

on smaller incremental issues than waiting until you re father along where the

stakes and risks have increased. If you do get some constructive criticism

early on, you can more easily change course while also increasing trust and

buy-in from the rest of the company.

So unless you ve got the budget to hire a consultant to do the straight talk

for you, it s time for you to lead the way by encouraging difficult

conversations inside your organization. If you can tackle these three steps up

front, you ll find your feedback flywheel will begin spinning faster and

faster. Otherwise, that elephant in the room is bound to trip you up sooner or

later.

Jim Whitehurst is the president and CEO of Red Hat, the world s leading

provider of open source enterprise IT products and solutions, and the author of

the book The Open Organization (HBR Press, 2015). Follow him on Twitter at

@JWhitehurst.