I was in a similar bi-polar (environmental) scenario.
I went from living in midtown St Louis in 2015, along the busiest road there (South Grand) to moving to Pevely, Missouri, where the nearest *anything* was a Mr Fuel 1.2 miles away.
It was like an isolation chamber. Thick walls, thick floors, thick ceilings. I would step outside and my ears would almost hurt from the sudden impact of SOUND!
I ended up "pacing" a lot in that apartment when my lease was near over. Then back to the consistent serenade of a crowded side road of Baumgautner in South St Louis County. A bike or horn may rise above the rest sometimes, but I was used to it after a year.
The courtyard three buildings over, where I'm at now, works best. Quiet, calm, but not deafeningly silent nor noisy.
Yep! My SO made sure that she could blast her music in the new apartment without the neighbours complaining. So I think we got a good compromise sound-wise too