I sort of see it (having kids) as sort of a "immortality project", as one person I know put it. Or, a type of living legacy. I mean there *are* other reasons to have kids, but I never much liked kids or *being* a kid back in the day, really. I always wanted to be older, and when I was around 24 or 25, I sort of breathed a sigh of relief like: "damn, I am glad I survived all that!" A lot of tumultuous times and struggle in my younger years, and in regards to economic status, that is still basically the case now, and I wouldn't put that on a life that didn't ask to be brought into this world.
It's a better way for me, though. To be w/o kid and just "do whatever" with my life/time. A lot of ambiguity and indifference towards many things I would otherwise have to concern myself with. So, it works out in the end :)
~bartender, another instant coffee and a beverage for those present, as well. May you all have a nice night :):)
It's an ego trip and an entirely selfish thing. Few people manage to be survived by their works. Having an affinity for something doesn't mean you're good at it. Sometimes people get lucky, and things work out for the better. If people only got what they deserved the world would be a terribly boring place.