Keeping Anxious Thoughts at Bay

2016-02-25 11:03:41

Whitney Johnson

February 22, 2016

Anxiety can feel like a swarm of flies, buzzing inside your head.

You re stuck in traffic. You re going to miss your flight, and the

game-changing meeting at the other end of it. Your presentation is poorly

executed; you re not going to win the new client. There goes the promotion, and

maybe worse. You re a neglectful parent, an unsupportive spouse. You spend too

much time at work, and still it s not enough. You have an impossible deadline

to meet. And, even worse, a company dinner. Is there no way out of that? There

s a haggard image in the mirror. Haggard and fat. You eat wrong, sleep wrong,

don t get enough exercise. And are you saving enough for retirement?

If only thoughts like these could be swatted away like so many pesky insects.

The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) reports that in any given twelve

month period, over 18% of adult Americans will suffer from an anxiety disorder,

one of the most common forms of psychological illness. Even for those whose

anxiety doesn t rise to the level of a disorder, anxious thoughts can become

unwelcome, nearly constant companions.

Of course, anxiety isn t always bad sometimes it s a whetstone, honing the

sharper edge we need to perform well and successfully achieve our goals. But

disorder sufferers should seek professional assistance, and everyone can

benefit from a few simple techniques that help keep anxiety at a manageable,

even productive level. When I work with coaching clients, I offer these

suggestions as a way to start:

Impose structure. We are uncomfortable yes, anxious operating in a void.

Too much disorganized space, including mental space, can feel oddly oppressive.

So bring some order to the chaos: make a list. Write down what you need to do,

and a plan to get it done. Tackle the distasteful tasks first and get them over

with procrastinating will only increase your anxiety. If your problem is not

too much to do, but too little (which can be worse, in its way), seek out

additional activities to stay busy and avoid brooding.

Reduce or eliminate physical stressors. The same behaviors that are generally

good for our health also help ward off or control anxiety. Establish a routine

for adequate sleep. Drink plenty of water. Reduce or eliminate caffeine and

alcohol consumption, both known anxiety aggravators. Eat well. The Mayo Clinic,

among other top health providers, publishes excellent suggestions for dietary

practices that can help you keep internal peace. Identify your go-to

self-medications: sugar, pizza, chocolate, Diet Coke, and make an effort to

avoid them when anxiety hovers on the horizon. Meditation and deep-breathing

exercises can also provide relief.

Add exercise to your routine. You may not be a world-class athlete, but

exercise is an aid to peak mental performance for everyone, and provides

resistance to psychological distress. Science has also provided some evidence

that physically active people have lower rates of anxiety and depression than

sedentary people. Exercise may improve mental health by helping the brain cope

better with stress. In one study, researchers found that those who got regular

vigorous exercise were 25% less likely to develop depression or an anxiety

disorder over the next five years. Taking a walk, observing the world outside

your office, and breathing some fresh air makes a great midday stress reliever.

Pace yourself. It s okay to slow down sometimes. There is wisdom in the ancient

tale of the Tortoise and the Hare, and old clich s like It s not a sprint, it

s a marathon. Take a break. Nobody can do everything, so feel liberated to say

no to demands on your time or energy that you know you can t satisfy without

undue anxiety. Say yes to activities that help you relax: a meal with people

you love, a leisurely shower, listening to music, reading a book. We re not

just working to advance our careers; we re trying to advance the quality of our

lives. Think of this as interval training like an elite athlete using cycles

of work and recovery to get stronger, you can alternate hard work with rest to

become more productive and resilient.

And perhaps most importantly, remember that while techniques and structures

like these can help us organize for accomplishment, they don t give us control

over outcomes. Coping with anxiety requires that we give up illusions that we

can always be in charge. Trying to control life isn t natural, and bracing

yourself for potential danger creates both psychological and physiological

stress, which only depletes us and leads to anxiety, says clinical

psychologist, Dr. Joseph Luciani, author of Self-Coaching: The Powerful Program

to Beat Anxiety and Depression

Anxiety of one sort or another will likely be buzzing around our minds most of

our days. But a single fly is preferable to a swarm. A few techniques like

these can help reduce the buzzing in our heads to white noise.

Whitney Johnson is the author of the critically-acclaimed Disrupt Yourself:

Putting the Power of Disruptive Innovation to Work, and was recently inducted

into Thinkers50 as one the world s leading management thinkers. Follow her on

twitter at @johnsonwhitney.