2008-12-02 18:14:10
Michael Leidig, London
February 14, 2007
A DUTCH primary school teacher dying of cancer is overseeing one last class
project: her pupils are making her coffin.
Eri van den Biggelaar, 40, has just a few weeks to live after being diagnosed
last year with an aggressive form of cervical cancer.
She asked the woodwork teacher, a friend, to build a coffin for her. "Why don't
you let the children make it?" replied Erik van Dijk.
Now pupils of the school in Someren, who normally plane wood for baskets and
placemats, have been helping with the finishing touches. They have already
sawed more than 100 narrow boards and glued them together. Only the lid needs
to be completed.
The coffin now stands in the middle of one of the classrooms.
Although Miss van den Biggelaar can no longer teach, she has looked at sketches
of the coffin and is being kept up to date about it by pupils, aged between
four and 11, who visit her at home.
"Life and death belong together," she said. "The children realised that when I
explained it to them. I didn't want to be morbid about it, I wanted them to
help me. I told them: 'Where I will go is much nicer than this world.' "
None of the children considered it creepy or was afraid and nobody felt
traumatised, she said. Parents of the children involved all gave their consent.
But in neighbouring Belgium the project has caused uproar.
Belgian therapists specialising in bereavement have complained that young
children are not able to fully appreciate the consequences of the death of a
friend, grandparent or parent.
Miss van den Biggelaar, however, thinks that the uproar shows how necessary it
is to tell children about death, mourning and pain.
When her grandfather died, she felt lonely and nobody spoke to her, she said.
"As a little child, I stood with flowers at his grave and did not know why
people were crying."