How to get ahead in the era of the show-off

2017-07-14 14:10:49

In an age of 'extreme pitching' and personal branding, it can seem as if

showing off is the only path to success. But is there a place for quiet people

too?

By Lennox Morrison

21 June 2017

As he back-flipped into an ice hole cut into the Baltic sea, Didrik Dege Dimmen

drew gasps from onlookers in Oulu, Finland. Waist-deep in freezing seawater,

his bare chest inked with his product s name, the 24-year-old Norwegian

proceeded to pitch his smartphone stabiliser to a panel of venture capitalists.

His performance may have clashed with the unwritten Nordic law of Jante , a

cultural norm that ostentation should be frowned upon. But Dimmen went on to

win first prize in the 2016 Polar Bear Pitching contest 10,000 euros

($11,128) and a stay in Silicon Valley plus global publicity and fresh

contacts.

It was a highly efficient way of marketing ourselves, he says. Since

co-founding FlowMotion Technologies in Oslo two years ago, the start-up s

increasingly visible public profile has helped attract $1.3m in funding.

Showing off, getting noticed and cultivating a personal brand is becoming

increasingly important

While jumping half-naked into ice-cold water is perhaps an extreme way to get

funding, it s part of a trend where showing off, getting noticed and

cultivating a personal brand is becoming increasingly important.

Pitch contests such as this are proliferating worldwide, with new genres such

as 'start-up battles' and weekend-long events popping up all the time. The more

extreme versions pose eye-catching challenges to hopeful entrepreneurs such as

Thea Myhrvold, who pitched her online learning platform Teach Me Now in the

back of a car lapping a race track at 112 mph (180 kmh). The 27-year-old went

on to win the 2015 Infiniti Speed Pitching final in Hong Kong and $40,000 in

cash.

Reality television has also wholeheartedly embraced the concept of the

outlandish investment pitch. Programmes like Dragon s Den, Shark Tank and

Adventure Capitalists all featuring entrepreneurs pitching investors for

funding can be found in nearly 30 countries around the globe. Even tech giant

Apple has joined in, with a new show featuring app designers pitching their

product to celebrities while descending a large studio escalator.

It s one thing to show off for the cameras, but research suggests that

shrinking violets may be on the decline in general. A 27-year study of American

university students found in 2008 that levels of narcissism were rising, and

the researchers noted that their findings complemented previous studies showing

increases in other individualistic traits such as self-esteem and extraversion.

Likewise, a 2011 study into the rise of narcissism in modern China found that

this was indeed the case among younger Chinese.

He who shouts the loudest

Reality television has had a hand in shaping this look-at-me ethos, says

Jonathan Hirshon, a Silicon Valley PR strategist behind launches for Sony,

Apple and Pioneer.

After the US scriptwriters strike a decade ago, reality TV kicked into high

gear, giving rise to Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian and the Jenners, says San

Francisco-based Hirshon. What we ended up with is the idea of living one s

life publicly, he says.

It s an aspiration facilitated today by a vast array of social media platforms

dependent on billions of people sharing details of their life and thoughts in

varying degrees of digital exhibitionism. The rise of YouTube stars and

Instagram influencers has further emphasised the importance of standing out

from one s peers with a strong personal brand.

It seems that your ideas, hard work and talent won t get you very far, unless

you can learn to shout about them and show them off

Hirshon says the concept of showing off began overlapping into the business

world in the mid 90s, when Silicon Valley started taking off in a big way. The

competitive culture and rivalry for funding expressed itself in pitching

contests with increasing demands on participants to bring entertainment value

to their presentation. And this attitude continues to build today.

There are so many new companies coming out of the woodwork in the last few

years that people have decided that they need to shout as opposed to whisper.

In this environment, it may seem that your ideas, hard work and talent won t

get you very far, unless you can learn to shout about them and show them off.

But what do you do if that s not your style?

A cultural advantage

For Hirshon, the trending tendency towards showing off is an unfortunate one.

A lot of the companies that are shouting have the least viable technology and

the worst business plans, he says.

The danger in rewarding showing off is that it favours certain personality

types

It also puts people from more reserved cultures at a disadvantage. Boasting in

Japan is the fastest way to get nowhere, he adds. Boasting in the Nordics is

the fastest way to go nowhere. That s a problem because their cultures are

antithetical to places like the US and the UK, where shouting has become the

norm."

Conversely, being too modest in more boastful cultures can put you at a

disadvantage, says Charlene Solomon of RW3 CultureWizard, an online

intercultural training platform. In a job interview or pitch in the US, you

have to be willing to talk about yourself, because if you understate your

capabilities it can even ruin a deal.

The danger in rewarding showing off is that it favours certain personality

types, warns clinical psychologist Ros Taylor, who works as a executive coach

as well as teaching business at Strathclyde University in the UK. The common

wisdom in many companies is that the best leaders need to be extroverts who see

the big picture and can talk about it boldly, she says.

It means everything is bluff and bluster and nothing has any bottom or

credibility, says Taylor. That s a worry because the quieter, more

contemplative person the reflector is often the one with the sterling idea

and the creative thinking.

True diversity is about having different types of people around the table, and

that means introverts and extroverts - Ros Taylor

I spend my time going round boards and senior teams and saying, 'No, no, no

there is no one type of person to be a leader'. True diversity is about having

different types of people around the table, and that means introverts and

extroverts.

Even when it comes to leadership, a reserved personality may well out-perform

louder rivals. A recent study of more than 2,000 CEOs found that introverts

were more likely to surpass the expectations of their boards and investors than

charismatic extroverts.

If you can t beat em

If you feel you need to be more visible, but being outspoken doesn't come

naturally, is there anything you can do?

From her work as an executive coach, Taylor believes everyone can learn to

speak up for themselves, and says quiet people who steel themselves to be just

slightly larger than life can experience remarkable success.

Before coaching sessions with Taylor two years ago, 44-year-old Gerry Tyrrell

would sit silently in meetings. As an experienced financial controller at a

mulitnational technology firm in Scotland, he was confident in his expertise,

but felt inhibited about speaking up. Especially, he says, when colleagues

would sometimes become more bullish and adopt a high-five mentality to make

their points.

He had always worked in the background, spotting financial risks and sharing

his guidance with people before or after big meetings, but felt a lack of

recognition was not helping his career. I knew I needed to project myself a

wee bit more.

Tyrrell says that coaching has given him the confidence to slow down, to pick

one or two key points and to get his message across

Softly spoken, and with a tendency to talk faster when nervous, Tyrrell learned

to slow down, to pick one or two key points and to get his message across. So

is he ready to stand in the spotlight in the way that extreme pitchers do? Two

years ago there s no way that I d have done that. Now I d do it but I wouldn t

be over-the-top. I d deliver things my way.

Hirshon, who s been a judge at Polar Bear Pitching, has had to coax a modest

entrepreneur to be more effusive.

I had a client in Sweden who had incredible facial recognition technology,

better than anything else on the market, and they consistently went out and

talked about [their] decent technology, he recalls. I finally trained them

to say that We actually have something that is unique .

Even so, he believes not everyone should have to learn to speak up.

When everybody shouts, it s the person who whispers that gets heard, he says.

If a company has a great product, if you communicate it in a low key and

factual way, people will get it, people will understand it.