How to show off without making colleagues angry

Done a great job? Here s how to promote yourself without alienating people

By Elizabeth Garone

26 October 2015

Remember those kids who curried favour with teachers by sucking up, rather than

actually helping out? Look around. You probably see many of the same dynamics

in the workplace, even, perhaps, in yourself. Where is the line between proving

your worth and annoying the rest of the staff with self-promotion?

Move up the right way

Don't put others down. Be good, work hard and you will get noticed.

Help yourself by helping your manager. Push your boss up and get his or her

job.

Choose your supervisors wisely. Weak bosses will see a strong number two as a

threat. Strong ones know you may help them get their next promotion.

Source: Jorg Stegemann, head of Kennedy Executive Search.

With the right amount of finesse, careful self-promotion can improve your

chances of moving up. Done the wrong way, there s a good chance that you ll be

passed over when it comes to promotions and you certainly won t win any awards

for being a team player.

Don't wait to be asked

One way to curry favour correctly is to give people what they want before they

know that they need it, suggested Lucy Owens, a Sheffield, UK-based associate

coach with The Career Coach consulting service.

Case in point: A colleague of Owens once attended a meeting of senior

executives. Without being asked, she quietly took notes for her somewhat

grumpy, hard-to-impress manager. The colleague knew that after the gathering,

the manager would meet a client and would need a summary of the meeting. Within

the hour, Owens colleague had summarised the key points in a one-page document

and given it to her manager, who was taken aback in a good way and said a

gruff thanks very much . He used the summary in his client meeting. Soon

after, Owens colleague secured a promotion to another team. [She] hasn t

looked back, said Owens.

Strive for clarity

Another smart way to get ahead is to be clear with your boss about what you

need, according to Owens.

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Rather than using sneaky, teacher s pet approaches (have) an honest, adult

conversation with your line manager about what you d like to achieve in the

role and organisation, she said. It s the most effective, direct way of

getting what you want at work.

Just don t wait for an annual review or appraisal. You can simply ask for a

short meeting with your manager and talk directly and confidently about what

you d like to do, the promotion you re working towards [and] your longer term

career goals, she said.

Good bosses will likely find this approach refreshing and valuable because it

will help them understand what you re seeking. Just don t forget to keep it a

two-way street. Ask your supervisor how he or she sees you, what your strengths

are, and for any suggestions for developing your career.

When I did this with my manager, she got much more clarity about my

aspirations and strengths, said Owens. That, ultimately, meant that she was

able to carve out a role for me that was fruitful for her, her managers and my

career.

You will not convince your manager of your strengths in one meeting

But don t stop there. You will not convince your manager of your strengths in

one meeting, said Philippe Gaud, an affiliate professor with HEC Paris MBA

and Executive Education programmes, in an email. Keep coming back to it when

you meet. Repetition is important, and time will work for you.

Even better, find opportunities to show those strengths in action, suggested

Gaud. Do not focus only on one-on-one personal development meetings to discuss

your strengths. Take every opportunity you get in business meetings to

demonstrate them. For example, if you are good at challenging coworkers in a

positive way, then use those skills at the next staff meeting so your boss can

see them in action, he said.

Act like a leader now

Rather than wait until you have a leadership role or position, go ahead and

start acting like a leader.

Take advantage of opportunities throughout your career to lead, said

Virginia, US-based Deborah Golden, principal at Deloitte & Touche LLP, in an

email. For example, experiment with influencing others, innovating or

strategising. If others follow you, it showcases your ability to lead and not

simply manage, she said.

Be fearless. Take opportunities as they come; [don t] simply wait for a role

or a title to come your way, Golden said. Showcasing the characteristics,

skills and capabilities of a leader in advance of a role is one sure fire way

to become a leader. And if you don t receive a specific role, move to the next

challenge; sometimes it s equally as important as a leader for others to

witness the way in which you react to a situation.

Don t just talk about being a great leader; put it in the context of a specific

situation. You should not state I m a great leader , said HEC s Gaud. You

should give examples of situations where you have, in your views, demonstrated

leadership skills.

Bosses can t read minds

Golden says she sees many people who do not fully advocate for themselves. It

s important to articulate your aspirations because people can t read your mind,

she said. Consider the role you want and be visible in situations that

provide a platform to highlight these capabilities.

By putting yourself out there, you will find people who will support your

development as a leader, or who will help you find new opportunities. Then, it

s up to you. Your performance needs to show that you re ready to lead from the

front, said Golden.