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Go on a walk with your partner. Don't say a goddamn thing unless they do. Bring up the shelf again. See whether the discussion escalates again. If so, go for another walk with them. Repeat ad infinitum.
> Go on a walk with your partner. Don't say a goddamn thing > unless they do. Bring up the shelf again. See whether the > discussion escalates again. If so, go for another walk with > them. Repeat ad infinitum.
Now why in hell would I want to ruin a perfectly good walk? ;-)