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This list tells you which countries have a maintenance agreement with the UK. These are mainly other European countries or those with which Britain was 'historically involved'.
By suddenly departing to a country with which the UK has no such agreement I will win a sudden and surprise victory. If I am 100% honest and truthful, the 'cat and mouse' game of my constant inventing new ways to evade the CMS was getting very, very boring. Besides, I just want to lead a normal life!!! But why evade them if it is for the good of your children, I hear you ask? Well, because we needed money to save (and survive - the CMS made me homeless already!) and because there is nothing to stop HER spending the money on HER lifestyle!!! And anyhow, they also charge you 20% extra for the privilege of taking your money!!! Indeed - the ideology of the 'Tory run state' as I call it - is that parents should make their arrangements 'amicably'! I am an abuse victim for crying out loud!!!
The CMS and the bureaucrats who devised their procedures are the analogues of the Tory run state's concentration camp guards. So-called 'paying parents' are treated in a manner similar to those who the Nazis used to refer to as the 'untermenschen' (which translates into English as 'sub human'). The only difference being, that we are kept alive as wage slaves, rather than gassed.'
Some weeks ago my former wife suddenly cancelled the maintenance arrangement. This goes against her prior thinking (you would be surprised what constitutes my ex-wife's thinking these days). Mind you, she will never know the tight security I operated under in the UK nor understand the kind of person I am. My mother, for example, meekly accepts her fate in a way that I do not.
My own theory is that early clashes with me over the home, access to my daughters and other issues resulted in her being outsmarted and outfought. And she seems to realise that I can bring down her career in a matter of days if she provokes any further trouble. Whether I am in the UK or not is immaterial - I can strike from half a world away. In 2017, she accused me of 'destroying her reputation' in the catchment area of the hospital where we met - simply by speaking the truth about the ordeal I had been going through and abuse I suffered - and I had witnesses to that abuse going back years. In addition, I had a network of friends who would inform on her plans, the lies she told and on other's helping her, as well as technology with which I could survival all she did, all she was planning to do (including her adultery - which she always accused me of!!!) and her plot to get me out of the home by getting me in trouble with the law.
So this is a very fine quote, as shown on the homepage of this Gemini site...
"If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the outcome of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, then for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle."
Sun Tzu, Chinese military strategist and philosopher
Now... I do not wish to exclude my daughters from the family future which I am trying to safeguard. So... I do want them to receive support subject to my ability - only in a way in which their mother CANNOT spend the money on her lifestyle. (Examples to follow).
My plan is to return to an old tradition in which I would add money to their trust fund accounts every New Year's Eve (and at other times when affordable). Since the breakup I have been unable to afford to do so - and the CMS are in part to blame!!!!
The fact that even parents ON BENEFITS or PENSIONERS are expected to pay bears testimony to how the CMS are a bunch of bureaucratic fools who know and understand NOTHING of people's lives. The CMS in their present (since 2017) incarnation are a product of Conservative party ideology, just like the poll tax of the 1980s/early 1990s. Nor do they have a concept of financial abuse.
Only my daughters themselves can access the money once they turn 18. and their mother CANNOT access it. This is what the money is for - my daughters, not for a vile perpetrator of abuse to spend on their extravagant lifestyle!
[On the C100 form, for claiming exemption from mediation in family court, where asked which forms of abuse I had suffered, I ticked the following boxes: physical, verbal, emotional, financial. The only one I did not tick was 'sexual' as this did not apply in my case. In fact the CAFCASS officer admitted that mediation with an abuser was not viable!]
Note that CAFCASS represent the children in family court cases in the UK. The fact that my ex-wife went mad and argued with the CAFCASS officer, as I could see through the glass, helped me here. She also kept on leaving the waiting area to phone that man she was committing adultery with. This comes against the backdrop of her constantly accusing me of doing so for years with other women (and even men sometimes!). In fact, when forced to leave the home for hours, I was drowning my sorrows). I knew why she kept returning to Paris repeatedly. And of course, by showing her true character to the staff in a court building, she was doing me a big favour! I sat there keeping a straight face - as best I could. The usher was similarly unimpressed with her attitude too! It suits me fine if she decides to dig her own grave, so to speak.
Never interrupt the enemy when they are making a mistake. - Napoleon Bonaparte
She always did go through life with this childish mentality - she was going to direct other people, and no-one was going to direct her. I am a strategist, and by word and deed, I have needed to be!
My former wife once tried to demand £500 from me for a flat-screen television - to 'make her living room look modern' - despite never watching any television (as she was too busy chasing money morning, noon and night! Evidence of how she might well use the maintenance money to support her extravagant lifestyle! I have no interest in paying for her expensive tastes while I live in utter poverty and risk being made homeless! The people running this country are fools with no basic understanding of how abusive minds work!).
It is my policy that all my children should have equal treatment whoever their mother is, and my existing daughters remain family; their mother does NOT. This is why I fought for access in family court in 2017 and won (Their teachers were cheering me when I collected them from school for the first time!).
Now their mother DOES NOT need my money - if she can afford to buy needlessly extravagant things such as iPhones for them it tells a story! I would rather invest in their life chances and future!
And I strongly advise others not to buy from Apple, for the reasons explained here.
I will not be paid in GBP - no problem, I have this covered!
Please be advised that the welfare of my ladies is of the highest priority; without them the family will have no future. I am already livid about the 'responsible behaviour scam' in the UK and have no intention of retiring here!
The hidden British responsible behaviour scam
So as head of the family, I will set out how the new policy - effective immediately from my leaving the UK - will work on the ground.
. We like: scheduled regular payments planned in advance and fully accounted for.
. We can ignore: occasional unplanned requests made for a genuine reason.
. We absolutely cannot tolerate: demands which are extravagant and for any non-essential purpose.
. We don't like: sudden requests for money which are unaffordable and nobody can explain and justify.
. We might permit, after negotiation: occasional unplanned requests which are affordable and for a good reason.
May daughters and indeed the family are already set to lose out due to the responsible behaviour scam; I will do all I can to avoid them losing out further.
It is worth pointing out that by emigrating to a country with vastly lower living costs (China is not the final destination); I am doing the family a huge favour.
Indeed, I wish to be able to say to my daughters, once their education is completed....
How would you like to avoid....
. £50000 - 100000 graduate debt;
. £1000 - 2000 per month private rents;
. £2000 per year energy bills;
And so on and so forth? If their reply is 'yes please' I would like to be in a position to say to them... how would you like to join the business, get free training and all the benefits, and none of the debts?
Of course, it remains to be seen how long it will take to establish the business, as there are many variables not under my control. But one thing should be guaranteed.. they will remain my daughters, if their mother doesn't mind (or even, for that matter, if she does).
Let's build a future in which we can all be proud!
David, 24th June 2024
Update: on December 2nd, 2024 my ex wife gave me an opportunity to take revenge for her calling my lady, Gloria, a prostitute in the old days. She was begging me for money. As she can no longer make ends meet since her second husband left her (yes, earlier this year she got divorced for the second time!). She apparently has back trouble also. Asked if she can still lie on her back, she said yes. And she asked why I asked that question. My reply? It is the normal position for making money on the streets! Payback is a bitch, as the saying goes!!!
And this, along with other jokes, can be found over on my gopher site.
Within 24 hours, people were laughing in three different continents. I've got an attitude, too!
P.S - others say I have a 'military mind' and that 'I am a survivor'. Make of this as you will.