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Isn't it amazing how elusive "are others here tolerable to have exchanges with" has become given all the interaction options?

Thinking about it a bit more, I guess I've subconsciously seen/leveraged posting as a means to create contexts for exchange. Posting "to have a voice", "to be heard", as some sort of "release" (as opposed to "holding it all in")... well, I'm not going to say such are objectively lousy propositions. They just don't work for me, because they feel like the equivalent of wandering into the woods to find a tree stump to talk to.

I need to know what I've written matters/mattered, and it's not something I can pretend happens/happened by believing it probably or "must have" happened because there are potentially so many readers. I gots to feel just beyond some threshold of certainty that it happens/happened. And I honestly don't care if the feedback is positive (heh... initially typed 'postive'..) or negative. Either way: loneliness temporarily solved.

Is how it seems/feels....

And I suppose that makes me sound as though in some non-optimal marriage, because of views a la "shouldn't that be enough if/when it's 'right'?" But for me it's more complicated than that, because there's more to me and my wife than we could be interested-in/capable-of interacting with. There are many, many areas in which my wife and I are incredibly mutually perfect for each other. But there are some areas in which expecting overlap is futile.

So there's this, or other forms of this.

But - back to my first sentence - I'm astounded at/by how difficult meaningful overlap is to find "out there". And it seems even worse than ever given how hair-triggered people have seemingly become to shun/ghost over beliefs, which of course is an environment/scenario begging for an interactive experience somwhere between disingenuity and silence....

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~tffb wrote (thread):

general degradation of Netizen-quality (not just a perception of, but a reality of - depending on the expectancies thereof), is something I consolidated some time ago - expect people (on and offline) to be untrustworthy leverage hounds, and directly talk to (or even confront) them as such, on and offline, and then expectancy or reliance on what they say drops to zero, and it's uphill from there.

I am no longer eloquent or articulate with saying things (I am sure I am not - was once, no longer) but whatever interactions do/don't happen (with me) online (be it a quick "hello" from a friend in IRC over the course of 12 hours, or a lengthy e-mail between multiple friends in an afternoon) I am grateful to yammer and keep up.

stay well friend :)