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< Self acceptance and unconditional love (or lack thereof)
"Love yourself" increasingly sounds to me like one of those platitudes that people repeat, and repeat, and eventually end up all believing as a sort of axiom, uncritically and without question.
Isn't love a painful process? Love is a two way process, it involves the lover and the loved. In this case it's a reflexive process, complicating matters. One is both the subject of love and the agent thereof. To love is to accept, flaws and all, and to be aware that those flaws exist and, being in an "imperfect" (that is non-ideal) material world, makes the subject "perfect", as it is the rough spots that makes life possible, quite literally. To be loved, on the other hand, implies reciprocating, and thus being willing to change, and to be worthy of being loved, by transmuting oneself to try and make the loving agent proud, so to speak.
I must apologize. For one thing, I got too abstract, too philosophical. Moreover, I tried to define and constrain what "love" means and what it means "to love", how conceited of me! What is love, but a word?
This was actually quite helpful, so no need to apologise.
Abstract / philosophical is just what we need sometimes to find a different perspective and observe our thoughts and ourselves from the distance required to understand (?) ourselves and others.
What is love, indeed?