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What are you supposed to do when you no longer want to be friends with a person?
Its not like I can tell him outright, plus he's friends with all my friends so I don't want to make group outings awkward. I've come to just really not care for him anymore. Maybe it was just having him be a few states north for a couple years, getting a break from his bullshit.
He has a problem, you can't challenge him. If you disagree, he will take it as an attack, and a conscious, premeditated attack at that. You can't give him criticism, no matter how light, or he will take it as an attack. You can't make a mistake which will inconvenience him, because he will immediately start yelling at you about how you didn't properly communicate with him. You have to give into his demands or he will banish you from any friend group activities. I could no longer publicly associate with our mutual friend, Barry, because Barry criticized him for getting mad when we didn't praise him enough. Not to mention his utter carelessness for any inconvenience he puts you in. You have to assume he's going to be at least 30 minutes late. Oh and his constant favors, "can you feed my cat", "can you pick me up some ramen", "No pressure but can you do this for me", "can you fix my window for me". He moved to Sac a couple months ago and I just can't take more than a few minutes of him.
I would like to preface this, I'm not homophobic, hell I'm not fully straight, I even had a crush on this friend for a while, but dear lord does every other sentence that comes out of his mouth have to be about him being gay?! And his fake flamboyant voice that disappears as soon as he's not talking about something gay. And when you were claiming to be bi, Really loved it when you said I didn't count as bi because I wasn't gay enough. That definitely didn't hurt my feelings at all and definitely didn't cause me to deny that part of my sexuality for years. And He's so woke, can't talk about anything without him bringing up the oppression he faces as a gay person of color; White passing, half Asian, half white, person of color from a well off middle class family. It's like he uses his identity groups as a shield for anyone who doesn't bend over backwards to accommodate him. Your identity doesn't excuse your shitty behavior. It's like the whole friend group is being held hostage. We've all complained in secret. We had that other group chat to talk shit a while back. And he actually has a drug problem, granted its weed, but dropping out of college after taking 2 quarters of general education classes, that you failed because you're constantly high and have been for the past 5 years should be a warning sign for you.
I just wish he'd never moved back.