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~rav3ndust

I saw a post on hackernews a year or so ago that stuck with me. The question was something along the lines of "What would you tell yourself if you were $X years younger?"

One of the replies was short and simple, but made me wish I would have heard it in my early 20s:

" IMO the biggest waste of life is wishing that you're elsewhere. You end up wishing for a different present and future, then find that all your present is now the past."

you're still young, and you will learn a lot about yourself and what you want out of life in your 20s. I'm in my 30s, and while I'm happy with where I'm at and what I'm doing, I'm still learning a lot of things about the world and how I see it, as well.

I could write a book about the experiences I went through from the time I was 18 to where I am now, but you learn a lot in the ten years of your 20s that will shape your view on things as you go about the world as an adult and gain experience in whatever you choose to do (or not to do).

Remember also that while the 'typical work life' at some job you hate isn't the only option you have. As ~softwarepagan mentioned, there are other things you can do, but it still requires work (everything worth doing in life does), just a different kind of work.

Wishing you well. You still have some of the best and healthiest years in your life ahead of you, and with enough insight into what you really want out of life as you move through it, you'll eventually realize what that is, and the steps you can take to reach it.

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~inquiry wrote (thread):

> One of the replies was short and simple, but made me wish
> I would have heard it in my early 20s:
>
> "IMO the biggest waste of life is wishing that you're
>  elsewhere. You end up wishing for a different present and
>  future, then find that all your present is now the past."

I touched upon that not nearly as well in an initial post response. But the point you raise can't be overstated.

I'm just going to add a slight twist: the state of searching is a miserable one.

Sure, it might pay out/off. But until - well, *if* - it does, you're basically telling yourself you can't/won't be happy/satisfied/fulfilled until <temporal/spatial criteria>.

Thinking/feeling that way is completely unnecessary. Take a serious look at the phenomenon you call "you"/"I". Figure that out. Settle it. Ignore what you've been told you are. ACTUALLY LOOK AT WHAT'S LOOKING AND...

... rest there to your heart's not-seeking-elsewhere content.