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When you meet these emotional vampires, you may start wondering about what is wrong with you, why do you have so much trouble communicating with them and you try your best to work things out.
But, what we all need to do is to stop pushing ourselves into negative situations and just try to trust our instincts.
Part of being wiser is realizing when something is not good for you and respect yourself enough to keep yourself away from it.
If you learn how to recognise toxic people right from the start when you meet them, you may protect yourself from some unpleasant experiences.
Before we dive into understanding the characteristics of a toxic person and learning how to spot a toxic person, let’s have a quick look at what is toxic behaviour and what is a toxic person.
â–Ş Toxic behaviour
The subtleness of such toxic personality traits can be overwhelming but difficult to identify.
First of all, we must realise that not all harmful behaviour is toxic. Toxic behaviour, in particular, is certain traits of any person that maligns and pollutes their relationship with others and limits the growth of others close to them.
Moreover, it has also been suggested that being in a toxic relationship is bad for your health.
. Toxic person
A toxic person is someone who exhibits toxic behaviour, intentionally or otherwise, such as being overly dramatic, manipulative and needy.
Here are some signs that will help you immediately recognise a toxic person and make sure you don’t engage in a toxic relationship.
1. They never share your joy
You are euphoric because you have some great news to share, but they will immediately make negative feedback to put you down. Nudging you towards pessimism is one of the classic signs of a toxic person.
You got a new job, but they comment on how low the salary is and how they would never work for such a low payment.
You let them know how great you feel about finally pursuing your dream by starting your own company, but they say that it is not going to last for a long time anyway, start-ups usually lead to bankruptcy.
2. They are always surrounded by drama
How to identify toxic people? They are always overly dramatic.
Oh, something significant is always happening to them, and it is more important than whatever happened to you. It’s always some drama, and you are not even sure whether to believe it anymore.
A kind person who cares about you will be mindful of your emotions and wouldn’t share every single piece of negativity that happened to them. And they will care enough to ask you back about how you feel.
3. It is never their fault
Whatever it is that they shared with you, the tragic event that happened to them earlier today, they broke their nail or their terrible boss criticised them again, you will notice that it is never their fault.
The world revolves around them, and you will recognise a toxic person has zero self-criticisms while they speak. They always find a way to victimise themselves and never accept any kind of responsibility.
4. They bad-mouth other people
If you ask a toxic person about their friends or colleagues, they will never have something nice to say about them; it is always some criticism, a sarcastic comment, or just plain gossip. Nobody is ever good enough.
If they are speaking so negatively about other people, especially about their close friends, ask yourself what do they probably say about you when you are not around.
5. They are selfish:
They don’t care about what you need, what you think about, or what makes you happy; you are just there to satisfy their needs.
Even though they are manipulative, you can recognise a selfish person by some tiny details.
They interrupt you when you speak, have no idea what is your biggest dream, they try to control you or fix you, they go offline and don’t text you back, have an excuse whenever you need something, and the list goes on.
6. They lie:
If someone tells you one lie, there is a high probability that they will lie again, so stay away from them immediately.
Even telling “white lies” or withholding information can be seen as a warning sign of toxic people in relationships, and we need to be careful and mindful about the ways we allow people to communicate with us.
If someone is deliberately misleading you or telling a lie just to make themselves look better or make someone else look worse, you should probably decide if you want to be around them or not.
7. You don’t like spending time with them:
When they call you up to meet you, and you feel like you would rather be alone or spend some time with someone else, it is a clear sign that you should stay away from that person.
A bad vibe or a feeling of emptiness is good enough to tell you that something is not right.
Surround yourself with people that only want the best for you. If you meet a self-absorbed person, remember that you are just one more pair of eyes and ears to them. It is not an honest relationship.
If someone lies, makes everything dramatic, has no self-criticism, and intentionally puts you down, you are better off without this person.