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Sounds like an abusive behaviour by her and this must be stopped for your sanity. Tell her how you feel about that. You need to talk each other without the kid and other people listening. And you need to relight the flame as a couple, not as parents.
Jun 11 · 9 days ago
🚲 CitySlicker · Jun 12 at 01:42:
@stack thanks for the book recommendation. I think I really need something like that. I find myself trying to be disarming, but I can also can say something that is subtly aggressive or so and make things worse
Known some people who do the kind of horrible behavior who are secretly hoping for things to escalate to physical confrontation because deep inside they want to be forcefully dominated.
Humans are complicated: you don’t know what strange things people are carrying from their childhood and past abuse.
Maybe the answer is to just find a way to be *far* more assertive than you are being.
Whether you remain in the relationship or not, you have a kid, which means you are going to have this person in your life for the next 20 years. Rolling over and accepting her behavior isn’t going to help you once courts get involved.
Pray you find a solution and learn what’s really behind this behavior.
These books should be mandatory in school! All those times I felt terrible, not understanding why conversations turned against me! Some people have a natural ability to verbally bully, and are praised for their 'charisma' or 'leadership abilities'. Some ruin lives of a handful of people around them, others become politicians and work on a bigger scale. It is absolutely important to recognize foul play as early as possible, and takes steps to defend yourselves (if you must be near them)
🐐 Steve_Dracula · Jun 13 at 22:52:
Bite her face to establish dominance. (Note: do not actually do this. It makes wives cranky.)
@Steve_Dracula accurate username.
Getting shouted — More often than not, my wife shouts at me whenever she thinks I do something wrong, or in a way she did not expect. On one ocasion, I was shouted in front of her friends because our kid got hurt while I was playing with their kids. I am also usually shouted or criticised by her in front of relatives and friends. Today, she shouted at me because I did not approve her complaints about my increase phone usage since I was literally forced to use WhatsApp. When I get tired of this,...