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Positive Parenting: Helping your child to prepare for the start of primary school

Charles Prashaw, 15 Jun

STARTING primary school is a big experience and a big change for

children. It is a stage in life that brings many big emotions for both

children and parents.

These may include excitement, worry, fear, happiness and loneliness.

Most will feel a mixture of all of the above. Many children start

primary school with enthusiasm and confidence while others find the big

change stressful and a little bit more daunting.

They may need more support and scaffolding but their stress can largely

be managed with good preparation, clear communication and consistent

routines. Good planning helps create a smooth transition and creates a

positive experience associated with school for the child.

A successful transition into primary school helps reduce school anxiety

and builds on their experience of success. Strategies which ease the

transition include open and clear communication; familiar routines;

play; getting to know the school; and acknowledging the differences in

the modern school system.

Open communication between the parent, the pre-school, and the primary

school is an important part of planning and preparation. Many

pre-school’s have a transition policy, and asking about this can be

helpful. Seeking advice from pre-school teachers is also recommended -

the preschool may already have links with the primary school and can

help with preparation.

Collaborating with preschool in sharing information to help the primary

school in getting to know your child, particularly if they have

additional needs, can ease anxiety around the transition. Asking the

new junior infants teacher about the skills or tasks your child will

need for a successful day is a useful way to prepare and increase both

the child and the parent’s confidence about the change. These could be

skills such as self-feeding, independent dressing, toileting or keeping

track of their belongings. It is important to note here that every

child is different. Children with complex needs will need more support

and time to develop some of these skills over time. Speak positively

about school and the experience that they are going to have with your

child.

Helping your child get used to the new routine before term begins can

build their sense of security. Try following the new routines a few

weeks before starting school; such as setting a regular bedtime and

waking up routine, practising morning routines, and familiarising your

child with the walk or drive to the new school. The summer months are a

good time to begin to reduce your child’s screen time to less than one

hour per day. From a practical point of view, make sure your child is

familiar with and has tried on their new school uniform a number of

times before the big day. Involve them in picking out their own school

bag and lunchbox, along with their pencil case and other stationary

required. Make sure they are comfortable opening and closing and

managing all these.

Creating time and space to play with your child is both a useful and

insightful way to help them prepare for school. Spending quality time

playing with your child will help to ensure they experience a good

enough connection every day. Fostering a good connection with their

parent allows children to transition more easily as their emotional

needs have been fulfilled and their fears around separation reduce. It

is recommended to have 10 minutes a day of connected and mindful

child-lead play, allowing the child to choose the topic and decide how

the play is carried out.

Getting to know the school will not only ease the transition but also

make any potential future issues easier to deal with.

Understand that different schools will have different approaches around

transitions. Attend school information sessions where possible and

avail of opportunities to bring your child into the school. Write down

questions you have and contact the primary school with your queries.

Connect with families already attending the school or from your child’s

preschool who may be going to the same school. Become familiar with the

school routine, for example, knowing where the child’s class is located

and the break/lunch times.

Finally, understanding the differences between how schools work today,

compared to how we experienced them ourselves is important. Schools aim

to be a positive environment for children and facilitate transitions or

challenges through interactive and creative learning, play time/Aistear

and regular movement breaks throughout the day.

If you want more information about this topic, the Primary Care Child

and Family Psychology Service are running a free online webinar

entitled Starting Primary School: helping your child to prepare on

Thursday, June 20 from 10.00 – 11.30am. To register contact the Primary

Care Psychology team on 061-483692.

This article was contributed by the Primacy Care Child and Family

Psychology Service, a member of Parenting Limerick. Parenting Limerick

is a network of parenting and family support organisations. For more

information on this and other topics go to www.loveparenting.ie.